Done with writing?

My teachers noticed my aptitude for mathematics as early as elementary school. From there on, I was given free rein to indulge my taste for puzzles, geometrical constructions, and mathematics problems. I was also excused somewhat from the rigor of other subjects. Language Arts was one of those subjects. I always had ideas for my homework essays in Language Arts; I just didn’t have the inclination to make an effort to put the ideas into a proper form.  My Language Arts high school teacher used to say, “good enough,” and give me an excellent mark on writings that, though original, were executed sloppily.  No harm done, I thought at the time. As soon as I graduated from high school, I’d be forever done with this tedious process of writing. 

Going through College

There were no general education requirements at my undergraduate university. In Bulgaria, everyone completes their gen eds in high school, so college is about your specialty. I was thrilled! No more writing!

That notion was quickly dispelled on the first day of classes when I discovered that I had to write a lab report every week. And though lab reports are quite different from the usual writing assignments that you will see in the languages or humanities, it nevertheless was a writing assignment. Then, I had to write my application essays for admission to graduate school, scholarship essays, and various research papers. In graduate school, I had a master’s thesis, scientific articles, and eventually a Ph.D. dissertation to complete. They all required a significant amount of time and effort dedicated to putting things in writing. 

Writing on behalf of others.

I chose to teach physics at a Community College for very specific purposes. No research or bringing in funding was required. I was expected to teach introductory physics courses and help with administrative duties. No writing grant proposals, articles, or other papers. This time, I thought, I finally got rid of all the writing! 

Well, that freedom from writing lasted barely one semester, and then my students approached me to write letters of recommendation for them.  If I thought writing was tedious before, now it became overwhelming. The burden and responsibility to write on someone else’s behalf felt excruciating. Now, I had to write not only for myself but also to further my student’s academic progress. And when ten years into my tenure at the College, I was tasked by the Dean to write a review of the state of the physics program, I gave up. It took me only twenty years to realize that there was no running away from writing. I might as well embrace it. Life was about communicating with others, and writing was a significant component of that communication. 

Which brought me back to thinking about my high school. If I had to do it all over again, I would tell my younger self to choose a better, more strict Language Arts teacher and push through the pain of those early high school years. Even though my grades might have suffered, I would still have followed the same identical career in the sciences but with a better, more solid foundation in writing. 

It is funny how in the long run, the nice teachers that let us get away with minimum effort take on a completely different light. They certainly do us no favors. The strict teachers who demanded excellence appear to be the ones who thought highly of us. They knew we could do better and expected us to rise to their demands.  And they certainly taught us the skill to do so. 

 

 

 

 

Life is about communicating with others, and writing is a major component of that communication. 

 

 

 

When you work with your unique strengths and abilities, your inner star shines naturally. 

your unique ability

I was helping a good student with his physics homework. I could immediately tell that he had excellent study habits. He was organized, methodical, and accurate. He was also intelligent and skillful, yet, his return on his homework was not commensurate with his effort.

“What holds you back?”, I asked. 

“Well,” he said, “mathematics is not my strength.”

I was baffled. Why would anyone choose to major in engineering if mathematics was not their strength? It turned out that the student had selected the math-intensive field of engineering to prove to himself and to his family that he could do it.

always Work with your strengths

I have great faith in human will and motivation. I do not doubt that once you set up your mind to do something and pour all your energies into it, sooner or later, you will achieve it. But at what cost? Why choose a path that is guaranteed to require a lot of effort and misery? Why not choose other paths, equally, if not more, rewarding that can unfold with much less effort and much more satisfaction?

So, I challenged my student –  “go back home and reflect on what your strengths are. What field of study can take advantage of them?”

Wouldn’t it be more fun to choose an academic major that reflects one’s strengths? If you go with your unique strengths and abilities, and your major reflects that, you will be the natural star in that field. People notice when someone shines in their area. It is easier to find jobs, pay the bills, get recognition, or do whatever you wish to achieve.

THE Unique Ability Circle

Now, you can say, what if you don’t know your unique abilities? Or, even worse, what if you don’t have unique abilities? The truth is, everyone has unique abilities, but not everyone is aware enough to know them. So, here is a tool that can help you start your explorative journey. I adapted it from Dean Graziosi’s book, “Millionaire Success Habits.”

Draw three concentric circles and mark the spaces in between them as Unique Abilities, Excellent, Good, and Another Lifetime, starting from the center outward. Now, write down all the things you are currently doing, studying, or planning in their corresponding circles. Don’t take too much time to think, or else your inner self-critic will take over and hijack the exercise. You want to avoid that by brainstorming and writing down things almost as if in a “stream of consciousness.”The less you pause to think and the less you censor yourself, the more you will get out of the exercise. Remember, you don’t have to show your list to anyone. And, you can always revise, edit, or tweak it later. 

And finally, be realistic. You cannot expect 100% of what you do to come from the inner circle. Aim for half-half. Accept that there will always be plenty of things from the outer circles that you have to do. You have to make sure that they do not dominate the overall tone of your life.

 

 

 

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A most dramatic cost cut, however, can come from taking classes at a local community college and transferring the credit to your desired institution.

The Cost of Higher Ed

The cost of higher education has consistently gone up in recent years. The rate of increase at many institutions surpasses the average inflation rates per the Bureau of Labor and Statistics

If you are curious how much precisely the increase is, here are some numbers. They come from The Chronicle of Higher Education and exclude room and board. I selected several institutions in Virginia and nationwide and looked up the cost of tuition.

The tuition at William and Mary has increased from $12,188 to $23,628 from 2011 to 2019. I avoided the statistics for 2020 for obvious reasons, as the pandemic has drastically shifted the dynamics. The average hike in tuition costs comes to about 8% per year. 

For the same period, University of Virginia increased its tuition from $10,628 to $18,968 at about 7% annually. Both institutions are state-owned, and the numbers above refer to in-state rates. (Source: The Chronicle of Higher Education.) 

The private institutions have kept up a slower pace, but their cost is usually significantly higher than their state counterparts.

For the period of 2011- 2019, George Washington University increased its tuition from $42,905 to $58,640; Cornell University – from $39,666 to $59,316; MIT – from $39,212 to $53,450; and Harvard – from $38,416 to $54,000. The annual increase for these four institutions runs between 3 to 4% per year. 

This cost is just the sticker price and not the actual cost to students. Virtually all institutions offer some form of financial aid to the majority of their students. Unfortunately, a combination of institutional secrecy and a complicated financial aid process makes it impossible to get a good idea of what each university’s cost will be until they accept you.

So, unless your college fund portfolio outperforms those 8% annual increases, what can you do? And what about those people who don’t even have college funds?

financial aid trumps rankings

The first and foremost fact you need to keep in mind is that financial aid trumps rankings any day. When you apply to colleges, widen your net and apply to top, middle, and below-the-middle schools. Whoever offers you the best financial aid package is the way to go. A high-ranked school incurring hundreds of thousands of dollars of student debt is no better than a lower-ranked school with a better financial aid package. And besides, if two schools’ rankings are within ten or even twenty places, they are practically comparable. In other words, there isn’t much difference between place A ranked 15 and place B ranked 20 regardless of who does the ranking. In the long run, you are always better off by finding a place that offers you more financial aid.

don’t start until you are ready

Be clear about your academic goals! This is a tough thing to do as many of us are too young and immature when we first make it to college. As a result, many students sleep-walk through their majors to emerge on the other end with a diploma in hand, tons of student debt, and no clear job prospects.

If you find yourself vacillating between majors, go and talk to the professors in the corresponding departments. Ask them what specific skills you will acquire within each major, what support they provide for their students, and how former students are faring.

For students who are even more unclear about their academics, a gap year might be just the thing. A gap year is when students are accepted into college but delay entering by a year. You take that time for growth and exploration. Travel, meet people, take an internship, or work at a job. Give yourself the time and space to know yourself, your interests, and your goals. Being clear about your plans makes a bigger difference in college than merely jumping right in from high school.

transfer credits in

The most dramatic tuition cost cut, however, can come from transferring credits. When colleges accept your transfer credits, you can complete your degree in less than the standard four years. Whether your take AP classes or classes at the local community college, always ask whether they are transferrable into your intended institutions.

A typical course load for one semester is about 15 credits of classes. At NOVA, where I teach physics, those credits will cost you about $3,000. At Mason, NOVA’s closest four-year institution partner, the same semester of classes will cost you at least three times as much. And if you take those classes while still in high school, you can even get ahead while saving money at the same time. Just ask your high-school counselor for community college partnerships and dual-enrollment classes.  

Short of legislature providing taxpayers money to cover state tuition, there is no one thing that can make higher education affordable. The pandemic crisis also has muddled the situation. And while there have been some exciting developments that might affect higher ed in the long run, it is still too early to see how the changes will unfold. Until then, the more informed you are about colleges, admissions, and academic life in general, the better the chances of avoiding the high-cost pitfalls.

 

 

 

 

…coaching is always future oriented.

what is coaching

There are two important aspects of life coaching that sets it apart from counseling, mentoring, consulting, and other services out there. 

First and foremost, coaching is always future-oriented. It is about what you want to do and how to go about achieving it. It requires you to make space in your life for making changes, pursuing goals, and personal growth. There is no lingering in life coaching – clients either grow or abandon coaching altogether. 

Next, and equally important, is the inherent equality between a coach and a client. Unlike teaching, mentoring, or consulting, the coach is not the expert. Well, they may be, but that is not why the client reaches out and works with the coach. In the coaching process, two individuals join together for the purpose of the client’s growth. 

When I work with a coach myself, the part that works best for me is the accountability. Just telling my goals to my coach makes me obliged to follow through with the steps, or at least to try them in earnest. I accomplish In a couple of weeks more than in a year of planing or doing things by myself. 

 

 

 

 

The value of college degrees is no longer what was thought in the past.

Is College right for you?

 

As an academic coach, I feel strongly about empowering people to make good decisions. I always encourage my clients to be honest with themselves and set up clear objectives. The truth is that even if you earn a college degree, it no longer guarantees a job or a certain amount of income. That doesn’t come as a surprise to those of us who have been in academia for a while. What excites me, however, is that the public is finally catching up by asking some tough questions. What is a college degree good for? Who needs it and why? Where does its value lie, and what does it contribute to our professional success?

Two recent events from last summer underscore these questions. 

On June 26, 2020, then-President Trump signed an executive order overhauling government practices so that skills will be valued higher over degrees in federal hiring regulations. In short, if you have the skills and experience, you will no longer be automatically disqualified by government agencies on account of lacking a degree. (Source: USA Today

At about the same time, Google announced its Certification Program that requires no previous degrees or experience. Translation: you don’t need to go to a fancy university to work for Google. 

Notwithstanding how these new developments will unfold in the future, I am excited to see a trend towards relevant and appropriate skills. And while a college degree will continue to be meaningful for specific professions, it is good to see some spotlight on its value and meaning.

 

 

 

“Before you can lead, learn how to follow.”  The Book of Changes, 17. Following

On leadership

 

I was coaching a middle-school student through the new application process for our local magnet school last month when we encountered the “leadership” question. Naturally, the student was at a loss as to how to answer. Few of us have the presence of mind to navigate that question even later, at more mature ages. 

If you find yourself in a similar situation, here is what you can do. 

 

First, create an answer

Take some time to reflect on the great leaders of the world you admire and what qualities they possess. Write them down and create a generic answer around them.

For instance, you may consider kindness, responsibility, and competence to be a great leader’s essential qualities. Then, write down an answer that begins with a generic transition, includes those qualities, and ends in a way that can apply to many questions. Here is an example.

“I believe a great leader should possess kindness, be competent, and always act with responsibility for people who rely on him or her. I aspire to develop those qualities in myself and to demonstrate them as best as I can in a position of leadership.”

 

Next, fit the answer

What is left now is to practice your delivery.  Then, you will have a starting point when someone asks anything related to leadership. You may have to tweak it a bit here and there to fit different questions in different situations but the gist of it will remain. 

If you think preparing such an answer in advance sounds awkward, think of it from this perspective. Having a general answer to the leadership question allows you to have control over the conversation. You determine the terms and the direction of the discussion. In the process, you also demonstrate to your listeners or readers your confidence, your thoughtfulness, and ability to lead. 

 

Some day you will become the leader that you aspire to be.  And it will probably be different from what you currently imagine it. You do not need to wait until that day, however, to speak boldly and passionately about your convictions.  

 

 

You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. 

 

 

CHOICES THAT FIT YOU


I frequently help clients navigate through choices. Shall I continue studying, or shall I find a job? Shall I keep my employment, or shall I explore new career opportunities? More often than not, it is the perennial “what shall I do with my life?” So, what is one to do with such questions, and how can we ensure that we make productive choices.

 

do not borrow solutions

First and foremost, remember, it is a choice for you and only you to make. Stop comparing yourself or competing with others. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another.

 

Don’t accumulate guilt

I have found that whenever I feel the need to justify a choice, it is because, down deep, I feel there is a need for justification. And with justification, there is always the subtle guilt for not going the other way. So, between two choices, ask yourself – which option doesn’t require justification and go for it. Just the money you are going to save from future counseling and therapy is worth going this route.

 

align with your strengths

You don’t have to prove anything to anyone! While such motivation is admirable, spending a decade proving a point can be tedious and flat-out expensive. So, always choose the options that align with your strengths. Then, you will naturally be the star in what you do. It’s fun, it’s rewarding, and it is the only sustainable option in the long run.

Take time to figure out what your strengths are. Think about the fundamentals. Let’s say you’re trying to choose between a career in accounting and marketing. Well, if you enjoy interacting with people – go for marketing. On the other hand, if you are a detail-oriented person who is meticulous and prefers to work alone – then accounting is the way to go. You can sort through any such career options if you focus on the basics: do you like to work alone or you need to interact with people. Do you enjoy communicating – writing, speaking, etc. – or do you work best when left alone?

 

change is the only guarantee

One thing that you should never do is choose on account of guarantees. There are no guarantees in this world, and you should be wary of anyone who says otherwise. What was a guarantee last year is no longer valid this year. Think of the list of fail-safe professions in the past: the doctors, the lawyers, the engineers, the physicists turned into financial analysts, the programmers, the data scientists, and so on and so forth. There is no end to that list – it changes every so many years and every time everybody is convinced that that is it. 

However, if you choose with your strengths and become your best, you don’t need many jobs in your field. All you need is one – guess who is going to get it?

 

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“Be yourself. Everybody is already taken.”

 

 

College essays


Every time I tell someone that I am an Academic Coach, they ask if I help with essays and personal statements.  And while the short answer is yes, there are some qualifiers to it. 

 

Grammar and style

Firstly, if you are looking for someone to proofread or stylistically improve your college application essay/statement, you don’t need a coach – you need a writing tutor. The good news is that with the advance of technology, we have not only spell-checkers and suggested sentence constructions but also sophisticated apps that can help you with style, vocabulary, grammar, and advanced punctuation. My favorite is Grammarly. It comes with a free version that easily meets my day-to-day needs. You can switch between formal and informal styles in the paid version, aim for an informative or humorous tone, and adjust to a more or less technical audience. I have been using it continuously for several years already. 

 

What about content?

Now, onto the more sticky question of content. And this is where an experienced academic coach becomes invaluable. After all, you want to convince the college admissions committees that you are an exceptional candidate for their programs. So, what should you write?

Many applicants miss how important it is to find their authentic voice and express it. Admissions committees want to see your unique self and find out the topics about which you are passionate. They will be less impressed with your aspirations to solve world hunger someday and much more impressed about how you organized a couple of your friends to mow the front yard of your elderly neighbor. It shows care, a sense of civic duty, leadership, initiative, and the ability to organize.

While you are sorting out what you wish to include in your college application personal statement, here are a few things to consider.

 

Personal Experience.

Personal stories about your experience are valued more than general philosophical statements. Include specifics – what, when, and how you accomplished something. There are no small or big things. Do not dismiss your accomplishments. Whether you helped an older person at the store, babysat siblings, tutored a classmate, or participated in a sports competition – it’s all about your passion and the energy and skills that you put into it. Give details and make that story personal.

 

Own who you are

There is no hierarchy in the experiences. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that other candidates have accomplished more or grander feats. It is not the what so much but the passion, initiative, and creativity with which you do things and write about it.

If you like to play soccer rather than protest social injustices on the other side of the globe, so be it. Own it with passion and zeal. Tell the admissions committee members how you rounded up the little kids in your neighborhood and taught them a few soccer tricks. Include the time when you helped your soccer team coach or offered to referee games for younger players. Did you always show up? That shows commitment and perseverance. Were you kind to your teammates even when they made mistakes? That is a sign of a great team player.

 

Be always positive

While bringing up hardships and misfortunes can elicit sympathy from others, overcoming those and the ability to keep a productive and positive attitude is what brings about respect. You want to be respected and admired, right?

Also, we tend to be self-critical creatures. We frequently overlook what we do right in favor of beating ourselves over what we did wrong. For your college essay/statement, take the time to recognize your strengths and present them clearly. If you made mistakes – reflect on the lessons you learned from them. If you suffered through setbacks, focus on how you recovered. It shows resilience and strength of character. 

 

More versus less

We all know that it looks uninspiring to have an essay statement of only one paragraph. A little less known fact, however, is that it is equally bad to have too long of an essay. If you have many accomplishments, prioritize. Select your top accomplishments and include only them. Including a weaker paragraph next to a very strong one doesn’t make the whole essay stronger. It is the opposite. Weaker statements take away from the overall strength of your essay.

This brings me to my last point.

 

Confidence and self-respect 

If you don’t feel confident and do not have much respect for your accomplishments, then people reading your statement will feel the same. Few are consciously aware of it, but all of us are sensitive to the undertone of other people’s speech and writings. So, when it comes to your writing – the best approach is to ignore that you are writing an essay to be submitted to Admissions and to imagine you are writing it to a peer or a family member or anyone around whom you feel comfortable and confident expressing yourself. Tell yourself that your goal is not to get accepted at any rate but to find out which university or college is best for you. You want to go to a place that aligns with your values and your strengths. The realization of this fact shifts the power away from Admissions back to where it belongs – you! You are in power and control of your path, and, ultimately, you will decide where to go and what to do with your life.

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“Sleep on it over a night or a couple of days. If it is the right decision, it will come to seem the only decision.”

[Accepting/Rejecting a Job Offer]

Making a decision

 

As much as we worry about having no choices, in practice, more frequently than not, we actually face the dilemma of too many. So, how do we know if the choice we made is right?

Here is a link to Prof. Jon Wilkins One Page Guide on Accepting/Rejecting a Job Offer 

Check out the “Moment of truth” paragraph towards the bottom of the page. My absolute favorite is this:

“… Sleep on it over a night or a couple of days. If it is the right decision, it will come to seem the only decision.”
Accepting/Rejecting a Job Oer https://www.asc.ohio-state.edu/wilkins.5/onepage/accepting.html (https://www.asc.ohio- state.edu/wilkins.5/onepage/accepting.html)

Sadly, Prof. Wilkins is no longer with us, but his wisdom endures and his sage advice continues to be relevant.